The expectation of lifelong monogamy places an incredible strain on a marriage. But our concept of love and marriage has as its foundation not only the expectation of monogamy but the idea that where there’s love, monogamy should be easy and joyful. – Dan Savage
There are only two species of animals in which females are able to copulate week in and week out for non-reproductive reasons: one human, the other bonobos.In light of the hyper-sexuality nature of humans and bonobos, one wonders why so many insist that female sexual exclusivity has been an integral part of human evolutionary development for millions of years.
Humans display an extravagant sexual capacity. there is ubiquitous adultery in all cultures. rampant promiscuity exists in both our closest primate relatives, and there is an absence of any monogamous primate that lives in large social groups.
If a species has big balls, is is for the purpose to have frequent ejaculations. Where the females save it for Mr. Right, the males have smaller testes, relative to their overall body mass. The correlation of slutty females with big balled males appears to apply not only to humans and other primates, but across the animal kingdom.
We have been told that monogamy is normal and we tend to believe whatever we’re told. We take religion and belief in God to be normal. But to quote Sam Harris, “we will see that the greatest problem confronting civilization is not merely religious extremism: rather, it is the larger set of cultural and intellectual accommodations we have made to faith itself,” Christianity, Islam and Hinduism each share a fundamental concern over the punishment for a woman’s sexual freedom…”Whereas any ‘man that committee adultery with another man’s wife [both] the adulterer and the adulteress shall be put to death,’ (Leviticus 20:10) but any unmarried woman who has sexual relations with an unmarried man shall be brought ‘to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die’ (Deuteronomy 22:21).”Pair-bonded “monogamous” animals are almost always hypo-sexual, having sex as the Vatican recommends: infrequently, quietly, and for reproduction only. Human beings, regardless of religion, are at the other end of the spectrum: we are hyper-sexuality personified.
I also enjoy this school of life video which talks about love and it’s evolution throughout history.